Who do you think you are? Great question! However, most of the time when we hear that question, it lands as a negative and we get defensive.
Better way to respond would be to say, yes, I do know who I am. I am not talking about being big-headed about it, or defensive, but to be clear that you really do know who you are, without question.
What that requires is some inner work to address any questions you have about who you are. What will free you from any negativity or blocks that hold you back or keep you thinking that you are not enough, is to clear the ghosts of the past that you have taken on as you, and what has shaped who you are today.
Negative experiences, negative self-talk and listening to another's negative assessments, begin to take shape and dictate how we show up in life. You have a choice to buy into those negativities and allow them to shape your way of being. Or, you can take it on as a lesson in strengthening your resolve to be more than any of the negativity...that is not who you are, unless you say so. It requires a concerted effort to shift your thinking and self-talk. You have to ask yourself, how do you want to feel about yourself and your life?
My life has had many challenges that could have flattened me, however, what those challenges gave me was insights, lessons and my inner resolve of being alive and well in spite of it all. I came from humble beginnings, to be more direct, my family was poor. I felt a lot of shame and unworthiness, partly because we were living in poverty, but I was also being molested. So you can imagine that I had a lot of ghosts to clear out of my mind, heart and soul. Deep down, I felt a strong spirit within that I could rely on, that and my faith carried me to higher grounds.
I recall when I was about 10 or 11 years old, standing in the back yard with my hands stretched out and declaring that I would not live in poverty, or live in danger and would always strive to live well and have an extraordinary life. Believe me, my family wasn't on board with that and ridiculed me for wanting to live well, dress well (this is where I learned to create beauty out of rags) and have a better outlook on life. They often would say; "Who do you think you are? Do you think you are better than us? Peggy's all about looking good...no substance!" While those questions had me feeling embarrassed about wanting more, or looking good, that became the push that had me excel and be the person I am today. It launched me into the work I do now, which is coaching women to be a bold, unstoppable stand for themselves and to embrace the beauty from within...to be the beautiful, powerful, formidable woman they are!
You will have people asking you those questions, it's up to you as to how you respond. Who do you think you are? Clear your mind by resetting any thinking that keeps you from living your best life. I will add this one powerful nugget and that is to forgive those who have put you down in any way. Forgiveness is the path to freedom and healing wounds.
Life is a precious journey, don't waste it on negativity.
Empowering women to find their passion is my passion! www.peggy-scott.com
